Dr. Randy Cale’s Terrific Parenting: The stunning discovery: Children actually need play

May 25, 2026 - 04:32

Here we are again, confronted by modern science confirming what wise parents, grandparents, teachers, and common sense have known for a long time: children need to play. A recent wave of research has delivered what some are calling a stunning discovery, but for those who have watched kids thrive on a grassy hill or a backyard swing set, the findings are hardly a shock. The studies show that unstructured, free play is not just a nice break from homework. It is essential for healthy brain development, emotional regulation, and social skill building.

When children engage in imaginative games, build forts, or simply chase each other around, they are not wasting time. They are learning to negotiate rules, manage frustration, and solve problems without adult intervention. The research points out that a lack of play correlates with rising rates of anxiety and depression in young people. Screens and structured activities have pushed spontaneous play to the margins, and the cost is becoming clear.

The message for parents is simple. Resist the urge to fill every hour with lessons, drills, or digital entertainment. Let your kids be bored. Let them figure out what to do. It might look messy or loud, but that chaos is the workshop of a growing mind. The stunning discovery, it turns out, is that children actually need play to become capable, resilient adults.